New Goals versus Old Barriers

Resilience meant actively looking for opportunities for self-growth, and developing goals instead of focusing on barriers… It meant the ability to see oneself as a subject, not an object.

Lauren KesslerRaising the Barre

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Creating new challenges for one’s self, at any age, is a key to living a full rich life. It keeps your mind and body flexible and you feel joy because you are always in a “beginner’s state of mind.”

The obvious issue that most of us deal with is our inner critic, and the self-doubt recording that seems to play non-stop much of the time. What can we apply to our lives to stop the inner critic and continue on a path of growth, curiosity and wisdom? My conversation this week with Lauren Kessler about her book Raising the Barre, takes a serious look at just that.

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Lauren Kessler center stage in the Nutcracker

Lauren is an immersive journalist and personifies the type of person who throws herself head first into any challenge at any age. However, she too has to deal with all the issues stated above. In Raising the Barre her challenge is to perform in the Eugene Ballet Company’s Nutcracker Ballet, even though it was about forty years since she ever donned her toe shoes and tutu.

You can’t feel the thrill unless you take the risk.

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One of the key things that Lauren brings out is the importance of “finding the ease within the effort.” For the longest time I was always aware of the effort,  however, what I am learning is that when there is more joy and ease in the effort, one can accomplish more and do so with a smile rather than a gnashing of teeth. The key may just be these words by Lauren:

The love of the activity should trump everything.

But we still have to overcome the inner and outer barriers of our past and present before we can experience the passion of a new challenge and in turn a renewed spirit. And, as the saying goes, that is easier said than done.

I believe what often times makes that so difficult is not just the classic “fear of failure.” Sometimes our greater challenge is we are afraid that we will not live up to our expectations and the result may not be the perfect one we seek.

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Lauren also gives us a new perspective on that word “perfect.” She writes:

The word itself contains conflict. As a noun, Perfect means flawless. As a verb it means to improve or make better (To perfect).

So, as we all seek to keep growing with new challenges go with the verb. Find out more when you watch the conversation with Lauren who literally has been there and done that.

Perfect your week and do so with joy and ease.

Barry

 

EPISODE LISTINGS AND TIMES ARE IN THE TAB AT THE TOP OF THE BLOG.

TO CONTACT BARRY YOU MAY E-MAIL HIM AT: barrykibrick@aol.com

 

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