This week, debuting in Los Angeles and most of our markets around the country, will be my conversation with distinguished actor Stacy Keach featuring his book: All in All.

Also making its debut this week is the film Nebraska  from Alexander Payne. It features Stacy and stars Bruce Dern a past guest on Between the Lines.

My conversation with Stacy had a lot to do with overcoming obstacles and after the taping was complete the topic stayed with me. After all, it is one of the most universal of struggles.
No one escapes facing obstacles but some seem more adept at overcoming them, while others appear to be overcome by them. Rather than see the positive side to the struggle of dealing with whatever gets in the way some become victims of their obstacles, and therein lays the problem.

There is no worse emotional state than the feeling of victimhood. The key is to avoid the victim mentality. Yes, way easier said than done, but it is the obstacle of obstacles that we must defend ourselves against.

So, what do you do if that should happen to you? First off, if I had the magic pill answer I’d write the book and retire. In fact, I believe there are probably a thousand such books on the topic and no one yet has found the universal answer.

I have found however a little trick that does work for me and I’ve been practicing it for some years now. Although not a magic pill, with time it does get easier and it also seems to lie at the root of all those who do overcome even the most severe of obstacles.

It is to view whatever is in your way as a blessing rather than a curse. As a positive challenge rather than a negative end. As a detour sign, not a stop sign. 

And if all else fails, feel free to wallow in misery, it just might be cathartic and help you anyway.


CONTACT BARRY: barrykibrick@aol.com

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  1. I wallow in my real miseries for a few days every once in a while, to be sure I am not just repressing and until I find it too miserable to be with me — then I laugh at it all and go find dark chocolate!
    I have long admired Stacey Keach for his very positive trait, tenacity! He has been a role model I welcome any glimpse of. As a child victim of abuse, the first lesson I needed to learn was that not everyone just lies down to abusers — embarrassed to say how many decades it took to graduate from that elementary school. I think people would be surprised to know how vulnerable abused children are in adulthood unless they can find role models like Stacey Keach and many of your other guests who show us overcoming obstacles is our inalienable right!


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